Mum fears spouse’s maternity sex fetish will destroy their relationship

The girl has caught her husband taking a look at sexualised pictures and videos of expectant females and it is ‘weirded down’ by it – but other people state it really is normal.

A mum fears her spouse’s pregnancy sex fetish will ruin their relationship.

The lady stated she had been ‘weirded down’ after discovering her husband had the strange fetish a few years back, but after confronting him, he guaranteed her he would « get better ».

Though the mum says 30 days ago she discovered proof their fetish had been back after seeing he was downloading news apps with tales featuring women that are pregnant.

Using to Mumsnet for advice she stated: « So a couple of years straight right back I found out my DH possessed a fetish for expecting mothers and their bellies and the full on porn addiction, if i am truthful it weirded me personally away a lot and I also realised he would get better and he did we had our own child and everything has seemed perfect until around a month ago that he needed help which he refused and said.

« two weeks ago he left their phone on within the lounge whilst he sought out and I also saw on the website numerous articles regarding the website of you guessed it. expecting mothers.

« I approached it with care me nowhere, he of course denied it and I completely believed him as I know from past experience that going all guns blazing got.

 » He has now been investing a RIDICULOUS length of time on their phone in the application, now some might state he is studying the news or sport like men do but he gets all that through on their phone anyway, therefore it actually set security bells down In my mind.

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« I then decided to do a little digging and down load the application for myself to see if exactly what he had been saying about them being normal articles on the website had been true, Ive tried it when I think he would utilize it (considering articles of exactly what interests me personally) and low and behold not an individual expectant mothers article coming soon.

« this can be me personally totally throwing it out the water but how do you approach him with this without me personally looking such as for instance a psycho?

« I’m simply concerned that because of just how much he I did so all this plus we’ve got our litttle lady to take into account too as she actually is my main priority. IF he has got started carrying this out once more it’s going to destroy us »

Some mums backed the lady saying they might maybe perhaps not are a symbol of it if their particular husbands had a comparable fetish.

One stated: « My ex had been similar to this and i discovered it quite unsettling. It really is enjoy it is ok to like the body that is pregnant perhaps not other individuals’s. He previously mother that is severe we realised. Does your spouse log on to together with his mum? »

Another included: « Aside from the subject of the fetish, there isn’t any opportunity I would personally be with a person who looked over porn frequently through the day. Definitely none. « In addition would not be with a person who hid things from me, and I also did not trust, for just about any reason. »

But other mums stated the girl had been unreasonable to anticipate him to not have a fetish.

One stated: we don’t really begin to see the issue right here, most of us have actually sexual dreams and things we find appealing, for him it is pregnant females. Could possibly be a complete lot lot worse tbh. »

« after all a lot of people have actually fetishes. It is just whether you are able to live with it. It is perhaps not likely to disappear completely, just because he prevents looking. It’s nevertheless there. « Him maybe maybe not searching does not suggest it doesn’t occur, » included another.

Another stated: « Genuine fetishes do not simply disappear completely. They could simply be concealed, or temporarily suppressed. »

Another added: « Porn addiction can usually be treated, along with the right to object to their obsessive/reckless usage of exact same.

« Your biggest issue is his unwillingness to be truthful with both you and with himself. »

« Fetishes do not disappear completely. They truly are profoundly engrained. He doesn’t really « need assistance » for this unless it really is affecting their behavior, » stated another.

Another mum included: « Nothing incorrect with somebody fetishes that are having absolutely nothing wrong with a maternity fetish either. But if you’re uncomfortable along with it then he’s the incorrect man for you personally. »

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